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How She Wants To Be Kissed
I’m pretty sure she wants me to kiss her. I mean let’s look at the facts. She’s fumbling with her keys at the door after our date. She keeps reapplying her lip gloss. And then, she’s always smiling and nervously looking away. These are all clear cut signs that she wants me to plant one on her right? And let’s not forget the time she said, “Well, why don’t you kiss me already?” I consider that to be a pretty positive development.
Here’s the thing though…
When a woman wants you to kiss her, she not only wants you to do it … she wants you to do it right. So what better way to learn than to hear it straight from them? Below are some pretty detailed instructions from various women on how they do and don’t like to be kissed. Pay attention.
Make sure she’s willing
“First off, does the date merit a kiss? Am I engaged in conversation with you? Am I smiling? If things seem like a go, a first kiss should be very soft. Please, no tongue! Just kiss my lips with yours. Nip at my bottom lip — just slightly tug it. Don’t be like my last first date, who licked my teeth and got my hair caught in his college ring (come to think of it — never wear a college ring on a date).”
– Alexis Derano, editorial assistant
Brush up
“I think hygiene is key. Before you attempt to kiss me ask yourself: Does your breath smell like pepperoni pizza? I don’t care if we just dined in garlic heaven — a pack of gum or tin of Altoids cost around a buck. Both fit in your pocket. Puh-lease, have fresh breath. I keep Tic-Tacs on me at all times (hint, hint)! If we go back to your place to cuddle and watch a DVD, there is nothing sexier than a guy that excuses himself to the bathroom and emerges smelling like Crest. I once kissed a guy that tasted like tuna fish. We did not go on another date.”
– Donna Tice, accessories buyer
Ration the love
“A little goes a long way, boys! A little lip, a little tongue, a little caressing of my cheekbone. For starters, give me a quick, sexy sweep. Then retreat — do not shove your tongue into my mouth. What I want now are your lips. I want long, solid smooches. Next, pull away and hold the back of my head in your palm. Look into my eyes. I’ll reciprocate — trust me.”
– Kristina Katsulous, account executive
Sneak a peck
“When just getting to know a guy, I like it when he goes in but doesn’t make it to my lips and rather dots my cheek and lip with a long, sweet, I-know-I-like-you peck. Then he pulls away and I likely blush, which is a good sign. On our next formal date, I expect full lip-on-lip contact.”
– Tina Jackson, student
Kiss me in the theater
“Take me to the movies and kiss me (just sweet pecks) at really touching moments, like when the main guy and gal realize they’re meant to be or the puppy gets saved from a burning building. It shows me you’re sensitive and totally tuned into my girly feelings. I’ll kiss you when your team scores a basket — promise.”
– Rachelle King, sales associate
Watch the hands
“Do not take my hands and put them in inappropriate places on your body while we are sharing a kiss. If I like you, my hands will be caressing your brow or tucked under your collar. And I love it if your hands are resting on my hips, holding the back of my head, sweeping my cheek with a soft, open palm, or holding my hands (personal favorite). It ruins a kiss if you take your hands and go rushing to different places. If I like you… we’ll get there.
– Willow Roberts, photographer
Sweep her off her feet — literally
“This is a little cheesy, but I love Hollywood kisses. Completely, over-the-top, theatrical kisses. Hold me, dip me, kiss me. It shows me you love to have fun (like me), and it’s so romantic. Hollywood kisses are also a great distraction from petty arguments, by the way.”
– Laura Gowzen, personal trainer
Just do it!
“My best advice is so simple: Go for it. If you get that urge, and I don’t seem that into it, who cares? Maybe I’m just zoned out for some reason, or maybe I am into you and you just aren’t picking up on my very subtle vibes. I’ve been sneak-attacked a lot with a kiss, and nine times out of ten, it turns me on!”
– Jaz Valte, publicist
** The quotes come courtesy of Christine M. Coppa; a writer for Glamour, Boston Home & Garden, In Touch, etc.
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Now it’s your turn. Give us some insight on how you like to be kissed.
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Cherish
I personally say keep it simple. A lil tongue is ok but I dont need to feel your tongue in the back of my throat and please dont tug on my lips. That is just irritating(how am i supposed to kiss u back in u are holding my lips with urs). Keep a first kiss in one spot I dont need both of my cheeks to have your spit on them.
chrissy snow
i just got a question FG my man HATES my lip gloss, and to me they taste awesome, all men i have dated before would be like make sure you wear tha peach tating stuff, or that stuff that taste like cherries, even my kids when they give me kisses are like ummmmm mommy ya lips taste good hubby hate it tho, is he the only manin america who don’t like flavored lip gloss….
chrissy snow
oh, and i like light kisses, tounge ain’t always necessary just let me feel ya lips and the heat of ya breath and i am good…..but not funky breath nice smelling cinnamon sweet breath lol
The Fly Guy
“Make sure you wear that peach tasting stuff”
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
*dead*
chrissy snow
lmao @ FG why is that so funny most dudes have no clue what the stuff is called they just know they like the way it tastes when it’s on a females lips…..and don’t tell me you ain’t never told a girl wear that stuff that taste like peaches or whatever i like that sh*t lol
Reina
I like being overwhelmed in a kiss, the type that leaves you woozy. Slow and deep so that we may savor our consolidated tastes. I prefer his hands in my hair, small of my back, or on my hips pulling me closer, deeper. Not too much hand-roving, though. We’re not in high-school. I am a dish best-enjoyed leisurely. And before he takes any further steps, he should wait on my signal.
Bahama
Soft, light kisses are what i like. But then you have to have soft lips to give soft kisses,not much tounge action, a few pecks on the lips. I have a thing for lips so the first kiss or any kiss has to be nice. . I despise sloppy kisses. Mouth sucking like Flava Flav, UGH!!
chrissy snow
I want a man to come in here and tell me his take on flavored lip glosses
Davey Boy
I’ve been quiet for a minute, but I had to comment. When we gonna talk about how men like to be kissed. Why does it always have to be about what women want??????
@Chrissy,
It depends. I like lip gloss way better than lip stick. In fact it turns me off to see a woman with a lot of lip stick on. Shit is disgusting.
B.C.
negative on the peach gloss. The only flavor I want to taste is the sweat from us sexing each other up. LMAO!
Bahama
LMAO Chrissy and Davey tell em why you mad son!!LOL…i like bitting guys bottom lip when we are kissing, oh was that TMI?
Davey Boy
@ Bahama,
So can a guy bite your bottom lip? Or is that only your right? lol
Davey Boy
and I aint mad. I’m just sayin :)
chrissy snow
davey i don’t wear lipstick just gloss, and that’s rare, i put some dang carmex on and keep it moving lol, i just wish my man liked it more, if he did maybe i’d wear it more
and lmao @ B.C. that sounds cool too tho the sweat thing
B.C.
say word Chrissy? sounds like my kind of woman. Holla at ya boi if you and the husband call a 20 sec timeout.
Bahama
@ Davey, I have yet to find a guy who can bite it right..but i would like it if a guy could do it right.
chrissy snow
lmao @ B.C., ai’ight i got you he get outta line you the 1st one imma call….
B.C.
now we’re talking
Taz
I don’t like a woman’s lips to look like she just finished eating church’s chicken. just like the rest of the makeup, I like it light
chrissy snow
B.C. you messing with a serious cyber fliter here, you betta stop, lol and if you don’t you have been warned….
The Fly Guy
@ B.C.
She’s not joking…lol
Ms. Miss
As crazy as it sounds I find kissing way more intimate than sex. If I kiss you that means I really like you a lot. The last guy I kissed months back was the best kisser ever and it was like our lips and tongues grooved together like some sort of magic. For the most part any other guy that ever wanted to kiss me had horrible breath or just kissed me sloppily and plain nasty. First kiss is always the big show. If you can’t kiss me right there are probably a whole slew of things that you can’t do right making you completely irrelevant to me for the rest of your life.
The Fly Guy
@ Ms. Mis
Irrelevant for the rest of their lives? LOL…that’s pretty funny. But I can tell you’re dead serious about that.
Ms. Miss
I really am. I try not to be so hard on guys but this is one thing I will not bend on. How am I supposed to be in a relationship with you if you can’t do something as simple as kiss? I kissed a guy once that GRABBED my head and proceeded to dart his tongue around in my mouth as quickly as possible and I could feel the dry texture of his tongue on my damn wisdom teeth. Survey says: XXX. I can not and I will not.
The Fly Guy
maybe he was searching for something? That’s the only explanation I can come up with…lol
chrissy snow
could feel the dry texture of his tongue on my damn wisdom teeth
^^^^^^EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW lmao
chrissy snow
maybe he was searching for something
^^^^lmao what a black eye?
Kristina Coleman
A simple peck will do. I really like kisses on the cheek for the first time. They are so innocent to me.
Jay Midnyte
This girl grabbed me in the elevator, we was both twisted but she freakin stuck her whole goddamn tongue down my mouth and left my damn chin all wet n shit.
yes
i knew them quotes was from one of them magazines…
do not hold my head or touch my face, thats corny to me
just be gentle, i dont really know how to explain kissing seems pretty simple and easy, dont be slobbin on me
soft lips are like heaven
so if ur lips get dry and its time for that first kiss u might wanna lick ur lips real quick and do a peck on the cheek
Complex_Simplicity
Ya’ll crack me up an no Davey, you will not be getting an answer to your topic of choice lol
I live for the soft simple kisses in life … Most guys cannot tongue kiss to save their lives … I refuse to be another victim of homeboy from Ms. Miss’ story LOL
Sheena Robinson
Edit: Don’t yell give me some tongue, mid kiss, it kills the mood!