
Every morning that I rise and attempt to put pen to pad with this column, I do so for one reason only: I love you. With every ounce of my being, I love each and every person that’s ever set their eyes on my work—whether they liked it or not.
But if you’ve ever read my weekly newsletter, then you’re quite familiar with the way I end every column: “Remember, you can never be loved, until you first learn to love yourself.” It sounds a bit clichéd, but in all actuality, many of us have never taken the time to love ourselves properly.
I’m about to change that today though.
Today is “Self Appreciation Day” here at Fly Guy Headquarters. So if you are currently reading my words, then you have to participate. If you decide not to, well then …wait, there are no buts. You have to participate. There is only one rule. You have to take a long, hard look in the mirror, and share with us one reason why you love yourself. I’ll go first.
“I’m the Fly Guy and I love me because I’m not a quitter. Even when the world didn’t believe in me, and when friends and family didn’t believe in me, I continued to believe in myself. I love me because of that fighting spirit.”
Now it’s your turn. Share with us one reason why you love and appreciate yourself. And be serious about it. I don’t want to hear that you love yourself because of the new hair you bought that makes you look like Aaliyah in the “Rock the Boat” video. No, do some serious soul searching, and then share a sincere reason why you honor yourself today.
Note: Not replying isn’t an option. You deserve this, so don’t pass up the opportunity. If you’ve never left a comment on my site before, then today is the day. On your mark. Get set…don’t let me down. Go.

TY-son
I’ll step up to bat first. Real men stand up!
I love me because I’m a good father that would die for my kids. I may not be rich, but they will never lack in the love department. That’s why I love me.
Mz. Chief
ok. let’s see. I love me, because I genuinely care about the welfare of others. Like, I’m the first one to volunteer at shelters, or give my last to someone in need. I love me for that.
Sidebar: FG, thank you for posting this, and making me write something good about myself. I have been dealing with a man that makes me doubt my worth. I know I shouldn’t be in a situation like that, but I’m trying to get out of it. I’m saying that to say that I until you made me think about it, I honestly don’t think I was loving myself like I should. Thank you. And I love you back.
Tony L. Jefferson Jr.
Love for self, is self realization. I write, i share my soul, i love myself in the fact that i’ve found i can help others through my words!
B.C.
I love me because I’m that dude. LMAO.. j/k.
On the real, I love me for working 3 jobs to pay my way through school. A lesser man would have given up, so I have to always remind myself of that, and what I’ve been able to overcome if I ever get down on myself.
Where are the ladies at? Ya’ll be quick to talk about yourself any other time. I kid
The Fly Guy
well said Mr. Jefferson
@ B.C. sounds like you’re trying to start something.
Ms. Miss
I love myself because. This is pathetic. I started writing my response and couldn’t get past because. People say I’m strong but I never really have felt strong. I guess I just endure pain better than others because it’s all I’ve ever known. I’ve endured sexual abuse as a child. Growing up with a mother who loved the man that molested her children more than God himself. Having nothing and homelessness due to the addiction of my ‘parents’. Raising a child on my own. I could go on but I’m still here. I still have my life together. I love myself because no matter what others do to tear me apart God keeps me together.
Bee
I love myself because I, as in ME, took away failure as an option for me. I motivate me FIRST, then ALLOW others to do so. I live my life without malice or mischief and with a heart absent of lingering hurt for it doesn’t serve any purpose after the deed is done. I only answer to me, myself and God. I laugh at the simple oxymoron of “YOU telling ME what BEE needs.” I have the courage, the strength and the persistence to keep it moving for me and my daughter by any means necessary. I look at her every day and marvel at this proof of my perserverance, determination and my faith in Him…ooooh now, see I gotta go..too much emotion up in here for this Sista Girl! :-) Thank you, Fly Guy for helping me remember ME. I surely needed that.
Tam
This was a lot harder than I expected it to be! I didn’t want to list the reasons why I think people love me, but one of the reasons I love myself.
I love me because I always try to see the best in people, even when I’ve had bad results. I still continue to have an optimistic faith in others and the times I’m rewarded are worth the times when I’m not.
The Fly Guy
@Ms. Miss,
You have a lot to love about yourself. I don’t know many people that could overcome all of that. Your resilience is absolutely amazing.
Oh, and I love you too :-)
Bee
@ Ms. Miss…suga, keep going!! Just the fact that you can say you HAVE been standing and STILL standing is proof that you ARE strong whether you feel it or not. Honey, some things that just show thru!! You right, God got yo back!! fa sho! fa sho!
Reina
I love myself because I’m still standing. I’ve defeated the many challenges presented and persevered. I’ve never allowed my looks to define me or dictate my path, and although some people seem incapable or unwilling to NOT judge me on my appearance and doubt me because of it, I’m still here and excelling. So bring it all on. I’ll face it and still come out on top. That’s why I love me.
Thanks, FG. Now I’ll be walking around my office with a huge head for the rest of the day.
LadyA
I love myself because i’m determined to get what i want outta life. I love myself because i’m honest with myself. I love myself because i love unconditionaly. I could go on and on about why i love myself. Its too easy.
Thank F.G, i love u too :)
Trin-Trin
i love myself because i am determined. shyt hardly ever works out the way i want it too, but my stubborn determination keeps me going, keeps me pursuing what i want. still got a long way to go, but i love that turning back is not an option.
Trin-Trin
i also love that im resilient. i swear i should have been done a long time ago, and i thank god that i have the strength to get up every morning and try again
quietone
Hmmm….if someone breaks me down or tries to, I get back up. If I break myself down, I get back up. I fight everyday (mostly myself and past events that sometimes haunt me) to grow and learn and become a better person, friend, mother, daughter, sister. I am a fighter, a survivor. My daughter is my inspiration and God is my anchor. This was a very difficult question for me to answer, very difficult. Thanks FG for forcing me to look in the mirror….in a positive way.
The Fly Guy
@quietone,
Yeah we only tend to look at ourselves in the mirror to point out the negative. That side is important, but we also need to make sure that we never lose sight of all that’s good about us.
Yashica
I love me because Jesus loves me. He died for me, so that I can live. I love me because I am a great mother. My son lets me know in every hug and kiss that he gives me!
quietone
@ Ms. Miss: continue to be the strong woman that you already are!
Miss Coco
I love myself because I see the possitive progress in myself instead of looking at what bigger and better things other people have. I think about what others my age don’t have and how blessed I’ve been and continue to be.
songbird
Man, you can tell it’s Friday and my mind is gone because when I first read the title of this post all I could think of was, “damn I need to get some batteries!” LOL - okay, now that I’ve picked my mind out of the gutter and dried it off…
Why do I love me? I love how I’ve grown over the years. From a shy, insecure little girl, to an outgoing, strong, confident woman. It took years of heartache + struggle to get there, but I’m proud of how I’ve pulled myself through. I love my kindness, my open-heart, my heritage, the family I come from (who no doubt shaped me); I love the talents I possess; I love my mind, and am amazed at how much knowledge I can consume, and how much creativity I can spit out; I’m in love with my body, and every curve, freckle, dimple and thank God for all it does for me for every heartbeat, every breath I take in, and how it knows what to do to keep me enjoying this life I live.
lyricalluv
I love myself because I’m a very unique soul I love myself despite some of my flaws because I’m human and I’am entitled to make mistakes and learn from them.I give despite my hardships, I love regardless of being hurt,I cherish and make myself available to each and every person who plays a part in my life because without (some) of them I wouldn’t be who I’am today. Thanks for this one FG
I LOVES YOU TOO !!!!! : )
Cherish
I love myslef because I have eliminated the word cant in my life. I have found a morivation deep inside of me to do whatever it is that I can think of. I am in the process of achieving so many dreams and goals of my own but taking one step at at ime and getting thru one day at a time.
chrissy snow
yall been waiting on my answer ain’t yall? lmao naw fa real…..let’s see here
I LOVE ME BECUASE I’M THAT FEMALE DAMN IT….I’M THE ONE WHO WAS TOLD GIRL PLEASE YOU AIN’T GON NEVER DO THIS, OR THAT, YOU NEVER GON ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING, AND I AM @ A PLACE IN MY LIFE WHERE I NEVER THOUGHT I WAS GON BE, BUT I AM HERE, AND I AM DOING IT, AND I LOVE MY DETERMINATION, MY STRENTGH, MY TAKE NO PRISONERS ATTITUDE AND I LOVE THE FACT THAT MY KIDS CAN SEE ME AS AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT YOU CAN DO REGARDLESS OF WHATEVER CIRCUMSTANCES YOU DEALING WITH, I MAKE IT HAPPEN EVERY DAY AND I AM LOVING ME FA THAT…..
bayjewelnny
I love myself because of my tenacious spirit. I have encountered many challenges in my life but I refuse to let a person/situation/attitude stop me from doing what is best for me. It may dim or flicker but my spirit never dies.
MZ.Me:)
I love me because I had enough strength to leave an abusive marriage and everything I owned to start a new life. So for that one day I put me first:)
what?
I love my determination…when someone tells me I can’t do something I love the feeling I get when I prove them wrong…even if I doubted my own self.
what?
That was nice Songbird!!! U know what ur avatar reminds me of? It reminds me of Paula Patton in Idlewild, that was one of the best movies, so creative!!!
Bahama
I love me because no matter what life throws at me I look for the silver lining and try to make the best out of it.No matter how hard it may seem I look for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Like Terrell Owen says “I LOVE ME SOME ME!” :-) Really nice post FG.
Sanna
I love myself because I am where I am in my life. Hard work has gotten me here and I look and feel great about myself.
blackfujones
Its good to know there are folks who actually feel the same way I do. I make sure I do three things everyday. I wake up look n the mirror and say “I am/I can”, I try to help or inspire at least one person a day and continur to refrain from using that disgusting phrase “I can’t”. I love myself to the point where my enemies have to love me just because its me. Hell y wouldn’t I love myself
chrissy snow
Hell y wouldn’t I love myself
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lmao blackfujones kinda confidant ain’t cha….
lboogie
i love myself because i am not perfect..and im aware of the flaws and imperfections. instead of complaining (like i usually would), i now embrace and accept it and realize this is what makes me, ME
Just a Thought
I love me because no matter what, i don’t give up. It may take me a while to get up, but I never give up. I love me because I love fiercely, totally, unconditionally.
Whew! That was a lot harder than I thought it would be, but I’m glad I did it!
TaurusLady
I love me because God has made me into a fighter. The past years have been challenging for me, but regardless of the obstacles I faced, God always gives me the strength to fight back and never give up. I was diagnosed with lupus almost 3 years ago and I’ve always refused to let this disease define me: I live better now, I laugh harder, my smile is wider, and most importantly I love myself better now.
Thank you FG for this post!
M0delMami
I love myself becasue I am a creation of my parents. I love myself because at the end of the day the only person I can depend on to make sure Im ok or that I accomplish anything I want to is Myself. I love myself because I learned over the years that A person cannot expect alot of someone else and that A person doesnt owe you a DAMN thing… its just we as Humans feel its the right thing to do.
Lastly I love myself because Im different from everybody else and thats what makes me Unique and Special. I HAVE MY OWN IDENTITY!!!!
kriscole83
I love myself for being so strong (for me and my brother) when my mother dealt with cancer and then have to turn around and have her colon removed. I had to keep my emotions to myself so that my mother wouldn’t think that if it was her time to go that I wouldn’t be able to handle it. I love me for still smiling through it all. Oh and mom’s is doing very well now. All smiles.
Jolie LaBelle
I am absolutely in love with myself.
I love me because I am unique, beautiful (inside and out), intelligent and a friend until the end. But most of all, because he first loved me.
That Chick
I accidently came across this page while surfing the net and found this article. You said it was mandatory, so I felt obligated to write! LOL Also, I can’t pass up on an opportunity to talk about how much I love ME (it’s the narcissist in me…sorry lol)
But I love me because I remain true to myself. Honesty is an important quality that many people take for granted and I believe that being true and honest to one self is far more essential than one can imagine. And that’s why I love ME! I don’t lie to myself or fake the funk for anyone…why would I? I love myself too much…
Like it or love it,
Peace
Jai
I love me because of the “peace of God” rains on me…
I don’t let anyone or anything bring me down, I am always positive and when I have my down moments all I have to do is bow my head and talk to HIM and I always feel better.
I love me because I am determined….whatever goals I set for myself I always acheive, even if it isn’t always exactly what I picture or planned, I still cross the finish line.
I love me for being ME!
songbird
@what?: thanks. You know, I’ve never seen that movie. It’s on my list of like a million movies that I want to see. I just never get around to sitting down and actually taking in a film. I’m so behind!
blackfujones
@chrissy. I’m definately a confident male. Lol
I’m one of those guys who was confident when I wasn’t so attractive when I was younger. But as time progressed and I got a tad bit cuter,seems like erbody wanted a cute/smart man. To bad I’m honory as hell. Lol
Jas
I love me beacuse I’m honest and a great friend. I can keep the juicest and never tell a soul. I also am very modest.
Badazznell
I love me because no matter what my circumstances I always make the best of it and end up landing on my feet. I love me because I refuse to give up.
Jordan
I love me because….I always trust my holy spirit to guide my life in all I do…I am relentless at my goals in life and will never settle for nothing less then great, even if it takes me longer than other.I love me because I will do anything for my family no matter how much we may fight, and they know it. I love me because no one can ever say that I’m not unique.
New Jack
This is WAY harder than I thought it would be……….
….I’m still thinking…no bueno
tiajuana
I love myself because I made it thus far and i am still climbing to new heights. I love me because I will never give up nor giv in to anthing i do not beleive in.I love me because I am raising my three girls to be women and not hoes in this society.Last but not least I love me because I decided to cut my grass low so I can see the snakes.
Miss. E
I love myself because not only am I loyal, but I’m smart, determined, cute, a wonderful girlfriend and friend, and I have put myself through 7 years of college, 3 majors, and a concentration and I’ve still managed to be able to send money home when needed. I am also VERY aware of my own faults and am willing to work on them, there’s not a lot of people that are aware of what they do wrong. And I’m a very giving and caring person.
Miss. E
Thanks for this post FG by the way, =)
Jade B
I love me because I see my reflection in my daughters eyes. I love me because she depends on me to make things right, and for her I will go through fire and back. I love me because God is waiting for me at the end of my race (life). I love me because no one can tear me down!
SC
I love myself because despite it all I’m a figher. I’m still here! A tenacious fighter even when I wanting to give in.
Kay
I love myself because I no longer worry about what other people think of me or what other people say about me, I’m going to do what I believe is right for me regardless to what other people think I should be doing. I don’t compete with people or try to steal their spotlight, despite the fact that people try to hold me back constantly. I love me because I am living my life for ME.
Smartarse
Long-time lurker, first time poster….
I love myself because I am not afraid to stand alone. I have had to make many difficult decisions that have cut friends and family out of my life. I love myself for choosing me. I love myself for not allowing someone else to be the captain of my ship.
I love myself because when all else fails, that brings a little sunshine and hope to my life.
Thank you FG for having this forum for adults to demystify relationships, converse, and to learn from other’s experiences….
cee22
i love myself bcuz….hmmm. i duno why i love myself. i havnet a clue. i mean i’ve had a good life. i am spoiled and consider myself blessed to be me but on tha real i cant find a reason. i have never gone thru and big life chanllenges…no one i know has passed, i have had no trama in my life. but really…how can i love myself? i really dont know wat i can do….
Braveheart
FG,
I knew the answer; it took me a couple of days to put my thoughts into words…..anyway,
I love me because God broke the mold when he made me. You might as well say, I’m a collectors’ item, LOL! A rare find, limited edition! But hold up, I didn’t always feel that way; but you know what? I know I love me, because I’m getting better and better at giving it as well as receiving it…………..
Tasha
Let’s see…I love myself because I had my first child at a young age and was able to overcome a lot of obstacles and finish school go to college get a great job and not become a statistic.
Cinna Bunz
I love myself because….
I can accept myself, flaws and all..
I have the best body that God gave me and even though it’s not perfect or fit for a magazine cover, it’s strong, it’s healthy and it works for me…
I have a great mind and I love expanding it, feeding it, making it grow…
Most importantly, I love me because if I don’t, no one else will…
Thanks Fly Guy…
CB
Danielle
This is a great excercise. After going through a divorce I have spent the last two years literally falling in love with myself. Sometimes when you are a part of a “we” you spend all your time appreciating the fact that your a couple and you lose sight of how remarkable you are as an individual. I can honestly say I love my creativity. I love that I am so passionate about my work that I go to sleep thinking of ways to put my clients on top of the world. I love the fact that I am the type of person that will always treat others fairly, even if that often results in me being taken advantage of. I have begun learning to love things about myself that I never saw before, my eyes, my smile, my brown skin tone, my curves. :-) I think we women spend so much time picking things out we don’t like about ourselves that we feel guilty celebrating things that we do like. I am learning not to do that. Thanks Fly Guy for giving me a reason to reiterate these things to myself 2day.
Nicole
Must start off by saying that I absolutely LOVE your posts. I’m always checking for them :).
But I love myself because I am strong. I’m loving. I’m giving, caring and am a damn good friend. I have a big heart with lots of love to give. I love me because I “man up” (even though i’m a woman) and take care of my son on my own. I love me because i overcome no matter what. I get down but always manage to pick myself back up. I go for what I want. I’m a fighter. I don’t stop. I don’t take no for an answer. When there’s no way I make a way. I love me for a lot of reasons. I could go on and on. But most importantly I love me because I don’t let people change me. I am who I am…like it or not!
Thanks Fly Guy…needed that!