Comments on: Can A Man Really Express Heartbreak?

By: softheartendsista

softheartendsista — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 06:23:49 +0000

mrs Tedeja B. you hit the nail on the coffin honey!!! It was like you took the words out of my mouth and pasted it there. i thought i was the only one that felt the same way . but he (the other part of me i thought) i was an emotional wreck a cry baby . but if you are human then you have emotions i thought you let person know how you feel you dnt wait for it to happen later . i always told myself that you cant change a person thats who they are even after everything they will continue to be who they are wether they are cold hearted or spineless you accept some form of them or you are initially attracted to them it is u that has to decide what you will put up with.

By: Just a Thought

Just a Thought — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 13:28:56 +0000

Shoot, I’m not going to lie, I have to catch myself when I see a man showing too much emotion. But, I want a man that talks to me, not one that holds everything in. So I have learned to keep my mouth closed and listen to what he is sayiing, and then deal with my own ish later.

By: what?

what? — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 19:46:15 +0000

I would beware of a dude that cried after sex, maybe he felt like having sex with you was a mistake, lol!!!

By: MSGONZO10

MSGONZO10 — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 14:34:14 +0000

Blackfujones – I think we may be saying the same thing – no man wants to be viewed as a punk (and no woman wants her man to be a punk) but I think the key is balance. As women, we recognize that there are things that will bring us to tears that will not provoke the same reaction in a man and then there are certain things that provoke tears in everyone and quite frankly, a bad heartbreak falls into that category for many people along with birth of children and death of family members. We’re just saying there has to be balance – no we don’t want you crying at anything and everything. That said, we’ll understand (and won’t question your manhood) if you do break down over certain things because despite what society tells you, you are not made of steel. You hurt and bleed just like everyone else. Now go get a box of Kleenex and let it out my brother!

By: blackfujones

blackfujones — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 03:02:01 +0000

@modelmami,face it there are things that are coined feminine and masculine for a reason. Perfect example,my sister n laws son. They think its cute that he cried as a kid during certain movies,it was ok for him to show his “emotional side”. Now the boy gets the “mittens” put on him when he’s at school bc he’s to feminine and he gets ridiculed. When will you women realize that that feminine crap that your raised to utilize is not meant for young men especially blk young men. I’m not saying to abandon your emotional side but for the most part when you show emotion as a young male you’re going to catch living hell.

By: blackfujones

blackfujones — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 02:51:44 +0000

Pffft,me and my wife are oversexual people. We don’t usually mix sex and emotions when we all know half the time sex is based on a physical attraction. I’d cry quicker if the bulls lost a playoff game than during sex. Maybe if she was using whips or sumthin but thas another topic.

By: M0delMami

M0delMami — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 22:35:33 +0000

Personally The men who dont show the being hurt emotion nine times out of ten they show that emotion when they are alone and etc.

We are all human both genders so I dont understand why Males peers and etc make a big deal about someone dweeling on being hurt. It happens and thats a way of getting the negative thoughts, emotions out by talking to someone or crying or doing whatever it that one does.
No I do not feel that if a man shows how hurt he is by a female hurting me that he is labled as being soft. I really hate that label but now generations calls is ” You Being A Bi$%#”
Im glad you brought this up FG because the young men and older men needs to understand is human and if a woman does claim you as being soft for showing that emotion UR DEALING WITH THE WRONG ONE ANYWAYS ..lls

By: MSGONZO10

MSGONZO10 — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 21:28:34 +0000

B.C.
We were fifteen (too young to be going there in the first place) but that might explain why he cried – it was sweet – a ghetto hallmark moment if you will. Hell it might have been one of the reasons that made me try it again after that debacle – two virgins trying to work it out the first time is recipe for disaster!!

By: Reina

Reina — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 20:23:36 +0000

@ blackfu

C’mon now. You just haven’t had the right woman put it on you yet.

By: Reina

Reina — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 20:23:06 +0000

I’m not impressed by the “I AM MAN. Me no cry” mentality. I’m a strong proponent of communication. If you’re hurt, just say it. If I’m free with my emotions, the man I’m dating must be as well. Crying, on the other hand, I can see both sides of the coin. I once dated a guy who never cried, prided himself on being able to get over a girl in hours. When I broke up with him, he cried. I did not view him any less. I understood. However, my friend once dated a guy who cried about EVERYTHING going on in his life. That’s not attractive to me.