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The Regular Guys
Dear Fly Guy,
I love your column man. You have me about to fall out of my chair laughing every day. I do have a quick question for you though. My friends and I consider ourselves to be regular guys. We’re respectful, make decent salaries, and are overall good guys. So why are we all still single? When are the regular people gonna start getting some love? Help me out, because while my boys are cool, I’d like to switch it up from time to time and enjoy the company of a beautiful woman.
Help!
Walt
Dear Walt,
Thanks for the love. I’m actually going to dedicate this letter to every person who considers themselves “regular,” yet still wonders why they can’t find a decent date. Listen, I have no doubt that you and your friends are in fact cool guys. But it’s painfully obvious that you are suffering from one fatal flaw: you consider yourselves to be regular.
Think about it…
Regular hasn’t really been accepted since Ashanti won a Grammy Award for Best Contemporary R&B Album. So why should a woman desire a “regular” man? It’s time for you and your friends to upgrade your mindset and self-perception. God made us all to be unique and dynamic in our own way; so begin to play to your strengths, whether it’s your sense of humor or your skill as a master kickball player. Once you do that, I’m sure the opportunities will begin to increase, as women will find themselves drawn to your self confidence. I hope that helps.
The Fly Guy
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Bahama
If you don’t have confidence in yourself, a woman wouldn’t either.
But there are woman out there that want regular guys, now where they are I wouldn’t know.
tyree
Good letter FG.. @Bahama,I agree with you that some women do want a “regular” guy, but I think FG meant something different. No woman wants a man who thinks he’s just average and nothing special. I think what FG is saying is that you have to be confident in who you are since we are all great in our own way. I know I’m not a baller yet, but I also know that I’m far from average. So I really felt what he was saying.change your mindset fellas.
johnnice
I can dig it FG
lyricalluv
Well I’m considered a non-regular type female,strong,independent,a real got getter and the older I got the more I realized that the regular guys are more stable and are good guys that need a chance instead of them hearing the disappointing statement that everyone knows, lets all not say it at one time “LETS JUST BE FRIENDS” lol.
M0delMami
Dear Mr. Wait,
I would like to share my thoughs and maybe this will help you.
First most females my age that I know, All they want is the Best Looking guy, the one thats wea rthe flashy and nice clothes the ones with the nice bodies and nice cars. But what I tried to install in thier heads is that although these guys might be into them how much are they really going to be feeling you as a person.
I also told my friends that “These Men” also have alot of women chasing after them. So 9 times outta ten your not the only person he is entertaining his time with.
But they wont listen.
Me as a young 21 year old woman. Im sick of those guys I ust described. Those are the ones that Lie, that cant be faithfully and are conceited!!!!!
I Want and “Average Joe” or “Regular” as you called it. Only because just like you stated, your respectful,make decent money and overall good guys. I need that. I dont want somebody thats everybody is chasing after. Plus I find I have more fun and I ca nreally tell that he is into me and only if talking with a Regular guy.
So my advice to you is keep being the regular guy just have confidence.You might be suprised who you can date if you just be respectful and take the chance.
And if you happen to take a chance with a lady and she just turns you down is a mean or unlady-like manner THEN THAT TELLS YOU SHE A PROBLEM!!! AND TO STAY AWAY.
9 times outta ten a person knows kinda what type of person they are talking to just from the little convo they strike up with that person.
Hope that helps
Britney