Fly Letters
Should I Stay Or Go?
Dear Fly Guy
Look man, I need some advice. How much arguing is a man supposed to take before he leaves? I know there are problems and issues in every relationship, and I’m not expecting sunny days every day. But I also really can’t stand the rain. I try to stay and prove that I can be strong, faithful, honest, open, fair, trustworthy, etc. But, fuck it, I am ONLY human. I’m sick of trying to be superman. So, what are the signs of a break up? Please don’t publish my name, if you post this question.
Thanks
Dear Guy (whose name shall never be published),
So what are the signs of a break up? Well let’s start with everything that you just named. If your relationship has pushed you to this point, then it’s definitely time for you to exit stage left. You should never stay in a relationship just to prove that you can tough things out. There are plenty of things in life that are designed to prove your toughness. But staying in an incredibly bad relationship isn’t one of them. So try mountain climbing, bungee jumping, or if you really want to live on the edge, watch a Ben Affleck movie marathon. Make it through any one of those, and you’re a certified tough guy.
But as far as your relationship goes, I think you know what your next move should be. Now am I saying that you should never stick around during the bad times in a relationship? Absolutely not; but it’s painfully obvious that you’re past the point of relational rehabilitation. I think you should leave. Let me know what you decide.
The Fly Guy
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Reina
I agree with FG. You seem quite defeated, and when a relationship brings you to that point, it is definitely time to say “Adios.”
Bahama
Well what’s causing all the arguments? Women don’t just argue for the sake of making noise..*WAIT* correction most women don’t argue just for the sake of arguing..If he really wants to make it work him and his mate should have a heart to heart get down to the nitty gritty and go from there.That’s IF he wants to make it work.
songbird
I hear what you’re saying, Bahama, but I agree with FG. Granted, we don’t know the full story to really give full-on advice on his specific situation, but when you’re at a point where you’re trying to find reasons to stay, or it’s only your pride that’s keeping you around, it’s time to really think about your exit strategy. Good luck, anonymous…
Marley Anderson
I can’t wait to read other posts you write.