Fly Letters
Is He or Isn’t He?
Dear Fly Guy,
I want to start this letter off by saying that this is never going to be a reason why I will ever leave this man. I love the fact that he works and keeps the grind going. Our main issue is that he keeps jobs that are typically held by females. For instance, he’s a flight attendant and a cosmetologist. I’ve stood by him during both certifications and I am very proud of his accomplishments. I don’t get upset or anything, but sometimes I feel a wee bit foolish when people ask me “what does your man do for a living?” Well, I’m glad I’m not saying that he’s a drug dealer or a two-bit hustler. But my problem is that his jobs are judged as being on the gay side. And he sooooo is not! Both of his jobs benefit me to some extent. He keeps my short hair style sassy, and a buddy pass does wonders when we want to travel. So to me, it’s really great! I just need to know how to get over myself. I hope you are not laughing.
Rhonda
Dear Rhonda
Don’t worry…I’m not laughing at you right now. I am a bit concerned about one glaring omission from your letter. At no point did you ever actually address how you feel about him. There was never an “I love him Fly Guy,” or a “We really connect on so many levels” anywhere in your letter. The only true explanation that you gave was his ability to style your hair and fly you around the world. That reasoning is about as suspect as Beyonce writing all of her own lyrics.
It’s a part of casual conversation to ask what someone does for a living. Your discomfort in the questions of others, suggests that you too have doubts about his sexuality. If you were truly confident that he wasn’t gay, then it wouldn’t matter what his job was. He could make his living by being Elton John’s personal towel boy, but it wouldn’t matter if you were truly sure. I think you have to do some real soul-searching before you continue on in this relationship. Try to get to the real reason why you are still stuck on such an insignificant detail. Whatever you decide though, I wish you nothing but happiness.
The Fly Guy
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Demetrius Pinder
Wow.
Definitely do some soul searching. Obviously, this is something that stays on your mind.
If you love him, sick by him and ignore what others think.
rebel78
I think she needs to determine how she really feels about him. If she really loves him, it wouldn’t matter what other people think of his careers, as long as she’s ok with them; and the fact that she only talked about the benefits of her job is might suspect to me.
Does she know how many women would be happy to have a man that works and has those awesome benefits and perks?!!