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I Want Him Back
Dear Fly Guy,
I was in a relationship for 9 months and things were going good until about 2 months ago. I became a really insecure and jealous girlfriend. My boyfriend and I began to argue over petty things all the time, and I was always upset. It got to the point where he told me that he was fed up and couldn’t deal with my attitude or personality. I am in love with this guy, and I really want things to work out between us, but I don’t know where to start. He says this is not the end, and that we should just be friends so we can see how things work out. If things are good, then we can just jump back into the relationship. I know he loves me with all his heart, and he has tried his best. But I need advice on how to win him back. I also want to know if I should believe him when he says this is not the end.
Sincerely,
Heartbroken Marie
Dear Heartbroken Marie,
I’m not sure if you were aware of this, but jealousy destroys more happy homes than finances and Karrine “Superhead” Steffans combined. (OK, maybe not the last one, but you understand what I’m saying.) In your letter, you asked where you should start, and I would suggest with your jealousy. Trust is the cornerstone of any successful relationship, and if you can’t trust him, then there’s no hope for this relationship to ever work.
So you need to ask yourself where this jealousy is coming from. If he is giving you a legitimate reason to be upset, then he should be the one trying to win you back, and not the other way around. But if this jealousy is all in your head, then you need to do some soul-searching to discover why you’re acting this way. Because even if this relationship doesn’t work, your jealousy can follow you into your future relationships …which will create this problem all over again. So try to nip that in the bud, so it won’t be a recurring problem. Once you deal with that, then I’m sure the two of you can begin to revisit the possibility of having a life together … but not a moment sooner. Good luck.
The Fly Guy
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Bombchell
true her jealousy sucked. it could have been legit or just paranoia. What bugs me is the whole “friends” thing. That’s some b.s. Yall are not likely to be real friends. A clean break is always the best.
but goodluck girl hope you get your man back.