Friends With Benefits: The Cold, Hard Facts

FG – way to go love columnist, lol.

Do I detect a hint of sarcasm

from me? never.

haha.

I just had a total and complete sandlot moment. If “nooooooooo” could translate the way I wanted it to across the screen you’d probably be laughing at me too.

i am DEAD offa the damn chart FG lmao

lol…I’m just trying to make sure you have all of the facts Chrissy.

I love it!!! I am enjoying the benefits of my friends this summer. Yes indeed! I have friends that confuse FWB under Flexible spending for TR. LOL!

thanks for the facts FG….lol you so thoughtful…

This is toooo hilarious!!!!!

LMAO!! Fun-e!! and true. But i don’t know if FWB can work..someone is going to eventually wanna be something more than a good lay.

But i also think this needs to be printed up and handed out..Cause some folks don’t know the difference.

i just think “movies” on the fwb side of the pie chart should have at home with high sexual content if not straight out porn in parentheses cuz we dont need to be spending money to “do it”

That is HILARIOUS! I love it! Where’s the downside? I don’t see it! Oh, wait, emotional connection with another human being. That’s what girlfriends are for… hahaha

LMAO!!! That was hilarious.

All of my friends were telling me how great your site was, so I finally decided to check you out. Well I’ve been stuck on your site ALL morning, so I just had to leave you a comment to say that I thoroughly enjoy what you do. I’ll definitely be coming back. Keep up the great work black man!

Like most things in life, every”THING” serves it’s purpose.

This kind of changes things for me not that I was wholeheartedly seeking one though. A lot of people have misconceptions on what the whole FWB thing is because the name is so deceiving. True friends you usually love, have met their family, spend time with them regardless of sexual needs or whatever. You discuss futures, maybe even take vacations together. Friends may have a few bumps along the road but if they are true friends will reconcile. All you need to add is the benefit of sex and you’ve got yourself a relationship! We need to coin a new term that means fucking someone you don’t want to be friends with for a prolonged amount of time be it exclusively or not.

@Ms. Miss: Acquaintance With Benefits?

@Ms. Miss: Or how about just “SIF”, someone I’m… you get it.

LOL@ Songbird.

That’s pretty funny.

Friend: “Who is that?”

You: “Oh him? That’s just my SIF”

2FG: see? it can work! lol

For a true FWB to work, both people have to understand and know whats up, what to expect and not to expect. However usually someone always wants something more, and its not always the woman. So I like SIF, maybe we can avoid all the drama that FWB usually brings.

@ATLCutie,

So do you think women are viewed as the ones who break the code first?

I’m chiming in… I think stereotypically people assume it’s the woman who always catches feelings, but it’s not true. I think statistically there’s probably more women who break the ‘code’ versus men, but men can be just as guilty of going into it and then wanting more. As much as society likes to pen men as heartless, they can be emotional and sensitive too, sometimes even more so than women.

See I don’t necessarily think women change their minds more than men. Instead I think it’s the person that agrees to the arrangement second. 9 times out of 10, the person that suggests the arrangement is not going to change their position. It’s usually the person who says, “Ok cool, I can do that.”

But once they get deep into it, they realize that they want more. There are exceptions, but I think you’ll find this being the case more often than not.

LOL, this is pretty good. Never thought about it that way. FWB, hmm…

I think SIF is a MUCH better and appropriate term Songbird.

@FG: good way to look at it… I think you’re right about that.

@Ms. Miss: go ahead and start using it… it would be hilarious if we could start a trend with it – I should add it to urbandictionary.com… LMAO!!

I need to post this to my bedroom wall!

that is some fantastic ideas

this is too funny….. yo the chart where do you find this shyt!

friends with benefits responsibilities “doin it” wow!

WOW!!!!!

I have to agree with everyone else, “this sh** was too funny”

:: I Luv It ::

Friends with benefits just another name for an extended one night stand.Either one never ends well

I have a friend with benfits now for the first time and i must say that it is nice. We have nothing in common and don’t really have much to chat about….so i seriously doubt that i’ll catch any feelings

LOL……..this is great and quite accurate I might add.

LMAO @ the charts. This is totally the male perspective but on the contrary I know some females who think this way as well.

LOL…Love it. Altho in the “Traditional Relationships,” I’ve been in or seen, the “Listening” part should have its OWN pie.