Fly Perspectives

You Might Be A Stalker If…

I was randomly surfing the net today when I came across this passionate note on Facebook. The subject was so compelling that I just had to share it with you. While I was personally amused by the desperation that men and women can show on Myspace, Facebook, and all of the other social networking sites that exist, I also felt the pain of the author of the piece. She had finally become fed up with the stalker-like tendencies of guys who happen to like the way she looks in her pictures. So enough was enough, and her anger and frustration just exploded on the page.

So ladies and gentlemen, not only do I want you to read the following note, but I also want you to take heed of the message. If the following behavior sounds like something you’re guilty of, I would advise you to stop … today. You would probably have a better chance at convincing R. Kelly to voluntarily report to jail than would at actually impressing a woman by stalking her online.

Consider yourselves officially put on notice.

All that’s left now is for you to read her message.
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Facebook already gives random people the privilege of not only stalking and harassing you over messages, honesty box, and pokes, but now they have given users the ability to instantly attract your attention by IMing you, relentlessly until you respond or are forced to block them. So tell me I am not the only one on Facebook who is bittersweet about the new instant messaging feature….?

I mean, it was bad enough when I would log onto AIM and receive a plethora of IMs from random people, as if we’d exchanged screen names somewhere down the line. If you stole, YES I SAID STOLE, my screen name or anyone else’s for that matter, then proceeded to add them to your buddylist, patiently waiting for me to log on so you’d have the opportunity to speak with me. Honestly people, does that not strike you as odd? IT SHOULD. If a conversation took place
like this:

XXXXX: Hi Ms. Goins, lol nahh u don’t know me I borrowed ur sn from facebook
XXXXX: lol
XXXXX: Allow me introduce myself, my name is ______
ME: and that doesn’t strike you as odd?
XXXXX: Nahhh not odd, just wanted 2 make a new friend
XXXXX: Will u be my friend Ms Goins? I promise 2 be the most loyal, honest, trustworthy friend u ever had
XXXXX: Lol

OR
XXXXX: hey who is this?
ME: well you’re not on my buddylist so who is this?
XXXXX: oh well i didn recognize da name so i figured i would hit u up to c who u r wat is ur name
ME: lauren
XXXXX: u got facebook i think i got ur aim from der??
XXXXX: yeah i do
ME: that’s really random tho
XXXXX: u dat really cute gurl i thinki got ur aim wen my cousin tried to hit up up he says he knos u
ME: lol, i guess?
XXXXX: do u kno a ___________?

Please recognize this as an issue… You should NEVER, under ANY circumstances allow yourself to commit such actions. This is obsessive, stalkerish, and weird, but more than anything LAME. I do not know you, you CLEARLY do not know me… so why do you feel like it is ok to IM as if we’re cool? It should strike you as odd if you go to someone’s page, copy & paste their screen name and add it to your buddylist. THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THAT!!!

But, Facebook obviously did not see that as bad enough… Nooooo… Instead they have chosen to make the circumstances even more awkward and allow these fools to IM directly from the website … WTF?! I mean could it get any worse? I am not even gonna take the time to put you LOSERS on blast, just know that I do see your repetitive IMs, and I look at them in pity, for you are pathetic. Please do something better with your time. Hitting random people on IM is absolutely retarded and you should be ashamed of yourself. Call me a bitch, I DO NOT CARE!
DO NOT IM ME IF I DO NOT KNOW YOU! If I’ve never established a relationship with you, we are not friends, no matter what ties we have to one another on Facebook.

For those of you who have IM’ed me and received no response, please take a hint and realize that I have no urge or desire to talk to you. IMing me everytime I am visibly online will not make me respond to you any more than I have the previous times. Notice: look at our IM history, if it looks like this:

Tuesday
7:26pm XXXXX

hey

i kno u dunno me jus wanted to say hey
7:28pm XXXXX

my name is XXXXX how are u

Thursday
8:14pm XXXXX

i jus wanna get to kno u

is that ok with u
9:01pm XXXXX

i kno u are online

Today
2:34pm XXXXX

hey

2:35pm XXXXX

wasup?

i hit u u ain neva respond to me

2:37pm XXXXX

can i jus get a moment

i really think we could do big things

I am not even gonna put the rest of the mess on here, I just want you all to see. It’s a problem. If you are reading this take note and realize there is NO JUSTIFICATION for this type of behavior. Please discontinue these actions. It’s annoying. I am actually pretty nice to these pathetic souls, but that’s just me, you might meet someone who goes off on your ass… In the meantime, do not IM me if you do not know me…
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The Fly Conclusion: As you can see, she was pretty upset by the actions of a desperate few. It’s my hope that by shedding light on this subject, then maybe some of you will look in the mirror and say, “You know what … I’m better than this.”
And if that doesn’t work, and you desire further assistance in discovering more productive ways to approach women, then feel free to hit me up at flyguychronicles@gmail.com. We can get through this thing together…but the first step is admitting that you have a problem.