Fly Features

Space To Breathe

Here’s another Fly Feature from one of my good friends Wise Diva over at the AJC.com. Check out her latest post as she attempts to gain a better understanding of the rules of space when beginning a new relationship.
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If a guy meets someone who he really likes, is it possible that he will lose interest if she has too much going on in her life? I ask because many men don’t want to start relationships with “party girls”, yet some guys dread the cling-on types. When single people have been single for a long time (ahem me), they may need a period of adjustment when a new romance begins.

The band 38 Special had a song called, Hold On Loosely:

If you cling too tightly,

You’re gonna lose control

Your baby needs someone to believe in

And a whole lot of space to breathe in.

When you are dating someone new, does that mean your freedom goes out the window? I admit that I have this hang up about “checking in” with someone who I am casually dating. It’s not that I am trying to be dishonest, but I don’t feel the need to be accountable about my time/schedule in great detail to someone who is not my man. Do guys see that as a red flag?

If you are the type that requires a lot of space to breathe in, how do you communicate this to your date?

Have you ever dated someone who asked for a little space? Was that a sign that they weren’t meant for you? How did you handle it.

**For more on Wise Diva, visit her here