Some Free Dating Advice For Women

Fly Guy, I don’t drink. So don’t think I’m defending this woman because I like to get my sip on too. Honestly, I do think she had a few too many, especially on a complete stranger’s dime. But you said you had a nice conversation with her, despite the fact she had 4 martinis. Was she up on the bar? Did she order shots? Are you just assuming that would have been the next step? It’s not like she was double fisting them.

If she was completely composed, despite the number of drinks, perhaps she DOES know when to say when. Her limits just might be a little… high. Lol. I’m also laughing @ the fact she said “Just any martini.” Like, I don’t care, just gimme a drank. Lol.

I don’t have a problem with her drinking. And you’re right, she was completely composed. But that wasn’t my point.

My problem with her drinking more than me deals with perception. Any guy will tell you that he will automatically think the girl is easy if she’s out-drinking him.

Damn right go Lakers!!lol had to get that out the way.

Now see me?, I have a two drink rule (unless it’s tequila sunrise w/ a shot of grenadine, then we have a problem..lol) and yea that’s not really all that classy to be drank’n up a storm at a bar.So i agree with you. FOUR?? lush much?

I didn’t know that, FG! But that’s what you’re here for. Dropping gems! Lol.

why are there so many limits on what a woman should or shouldn’t do? Who wants a man that drinks to much either, i don’t like a guy at the bar who has 3 or 4 drinks, no one likes that smell anyway…breath is always smelling like liquor…but i’m sure there’s more to the story, this chick could have been going through something and you happened to offer her a drink or two, or three. all i’m saying is these jacked up limits on dating, need to go away. Atlanta dating is already messed up, and now here you are broadcasting YOUR VOICE, LIVE…on saying what a woman should and shouldn’t do. not to proud of that statement. It goes both ways for me….but I don’t drink soooo I guess i really don’t like anyone who’s limit is more than one drink.

@Sunshine,

I agree that a man shouldn’t be drinking like crazy either. But I also agree with what FG is saying. It’s messed up that society has women boxed in like it does, but it does send off the wrong message if a woman is drinking a lot. I know I automatically think that I can hit if she’s drinking like that. And to your point about her going through something…if someone (man or woman) solves their problems by drinking, then I’m not interested.

To each it’s own, but I abide by the 2 drink rule, simply because I refuse to be too intoxicated to remember what I did last night.
But I do expect a man to contain himself as well when it comes to drinking. I hate it when men drink too much and make an a** out of themselves.

…maybe she was nervous! lol. I think you might have passed judgement too quickly. Her goal for the night was obviously to kick back, relax, and drink. It could be that by the time you sat beside each other she was already inebriated. Whew! you’re a tough one!!! j/p

Either way, thanks for the valuable advice on drinking guidelines! Ladies take heed.

I am the same way when I go out. You can buy me two. After that I buy my own. Maybe, you were talking to much (smile). She wasn’t talking as much and was able to finish before you.

lol…I’m positive that wasn’t it. When the Lakers are playing, I don’t talk that much…lol. She was just extra thirsty

Good one, Fly Guy! I have some friends who need to hear this from a guy… my words don’t seem to be getting through. I have a thing about giving off the impression of a lush, or even just being flat-out intoxicated. Must have complete control of yourself, your words and your actions at all times. Never leave yourself open for at minimum – embarrassment, at most – harm or to be taken advantage of.

I’m LOL at her request for another drink… asking you to buy her another. I’d call the bartender over myself, or mention that I’m going to order another (with cash in hand), but not ask the guy to buy me another. If he offers to pick it up, great, if not, no worries. Tacky, I say. But then again, anyone who orders, “any kind of martini” can’t be full of class anyway. Everyone should have a standard drink!

I love the drink rule! As a woman when I first meet a guy while out or when we just start dating I have 1 or 2 drinks at the most. Being a little alcohol guzzler is unattractive even if a woman is fine. Being the little lush I am… I don’t start knockin em back till we’re in a relationship and he loves me… lol. I believe in making a ladylike impression and that woman was too much.

He’s right… I am turned off of females that drink a lot, but two drinks is enough, and she probably had drinks before she sat with him, and probably some after he left.

Maybe she was thirsty.

I apologize, but I just became enlightened about your website via Gospel Radio 1390 (Marcella Jones personality page). I realize that your posting was from May 2008, but I still felt compelled to leave my response. I agree with your advice wholeheartedly for the following reasons:

1. The female should not have approached you in the first place. It is unladylike and too aggressive. Women should not pursue men.

2. Women should refrain from drinking alcohol because is will lessen the possibility that they will do something that they may regret later. If a woman chooses to have a drink, she should limit it to one drink. Moreover, I would like to add that if she makes a trip to the ladies room, she should not consume the drink in order to avoid the likelihood that her drink may have been spiked with a date rape drug.