Just what the doctor ordered. Thanks FG!

I just had to tell someone to take a bow, and get gone. I’m proud of myself too, for knowing how to walk away. I love myself way too much to put up with the bullshit.

I agree Bubblez. You shouldn’t have to put up with the bullshit.

Sometimes a woman or man has to put there foot down!

by the way, her haircut is banging! lol

I think about my sons father when i hear this song….together 4 years only to find out he was cheating. when he was telling me the truth this dude was boo hoo crying!!!!! nah can u imagine a dud with a mouth full of golz bawling his eyes out??? i was like nicca ya tears mean nothing to me right now. I wish i would have known this son cuz i dayum sure would have told him to take a bow, cuz that was 1 hella emotional performance. but if he really was that hurt about hurting me, it would not have went down in the first place ya feel me?

dayum…so many typos

*dude *goldz *song

lmao @ my girl Lady K story,

me and my hubby done been throo some stuff, it was never another female involved, but about 6 months ago i left him, took the kids, pakced my shit, called my older sister and said come get us i am DONE, not once did he cry, point blank period, he was hurt, asked me several times to stop and think never begged tho calling me everyday asking how we were doing, basically treating me like a friend, never asking me when i was gonna come home, ended every convo with i love you, talk to you later being cordial and kissing me on the cheek when he would come get the kids to spend time with em, but he never shed a tear,never begged or persisted, never put on a show or theatrics least not in front of me, and that, is why i took my ass back to him, cause he was man enough to deal with the mistakes he made, man enough to admit he was wrong, never put on a big ass show, listened when i told him my piece and how i was dealing with the same issues he was, he just waited patiently, and KNEW our bond and the stuff we been throo, and the fact that we are really best friends would persevere, and i would come back, so my point is this, if a man do wrong, and he know it, and he really want you to forgive him, he gon give you your space, and wait, cause that is all he can do….. my opinion tho not a fact, lol

lol i forgot to add, that the comment i made above is what i got from ri ri’s lyrics…..THE END…

*cryin*why u gotta laugh at my story Chriss??? LMAO but nah that was some real shyt you typed, i have never thought of it like that. My sons father talkin bout he is gonna take me out on a “friend” date but little do he know, he is not! I really don’t wanna go down that road again with him. I know he doesn’t deserve a woman like me right now at this point and time in his life…he ain’t even ready for me! He messed up after he let me hang for a minute…knowing that i DON’t need him and he DOESN’t complete me hurt him more than it hurt me. I miss what i “thought” we had, i was so naive but i don’t regret any of it..because it made me a stronger woman and i will never lose myself like that again while being involved with a man. If he’s not giving what i am giving 50/50, i’m out!

i am not laughing @ you tho K, i am laughing with you…….

and yeah i just think that once a man grows up so to speak, and realizes what he has, then he gon fight for it in his own way, now every situation is different, and hubby fought for me in his own way, i mean i knew he missed his family, i could see it when he came to get his kids, i could hear it in his voice when we talked, but he knew i needed to think, figure out my next step, weather or not i was ready to fight for the realtionship or not, so he just let me breath, and i appreciate him for that, for being a man, for admitting his faults, and letting me actually walk out?????? most men i know will do that shit ya BD did, cry, beg and carry on say he sorry and all this other crap cause he KNOW he done got busted and missed out on a good woman, he desperate, and desperation is not what you need to be when you done messed up……

why am i on here thinking i am subbing for FG, and i have no clue what i am talking bout, lol i am just speaking from my personal situations…..

LMAO , you are subbing for flyguy!!! haha i appreciate it though, real talk. That shyt hurt me like he!! when it first went down, it took me a while to get over it…well i am over HIM, well that is a lie also. However i don’t want to be with him, knowing he is a cheater…but he was all i knew since i was 17…i’m now 21. so your first is always hard to let go, especially when a child is involved. But it is life and i have accepted that he is not the one for me and if i was to go back to him i would feel that it would be a sign of insecurity…i believe if you don’t have trust, it won’t work. So no matter how hard it is…i do what i have to do, he really needs to get his life together. he know he messed up.

and i know you weren’t laughin at me…you was laughin at him cryin and you was imagin’in me with my hand on my hip like CHILE BOO…LMAO

Man I can’t run around for the day without folks trying to replace me….lol. I need the computer with me at all times. Seriously though, I just wanted to check in and say that I actually have a lot to say about your comments, and I’ll definitely be back on here later on tonight to weight in :-)

alright FLLLLLLLLLLY GUUUUUUUUUUY..lol

but i mean of course i still love him, but there is no question in my mind whether or not we should be together right now…however i’m never going to say never because who knows what could happen years from now, but i’m not banking on it and i dayum sure ain’t waiting for him to get right!

you still young tho K, you got plenty of time to move around, meet new men, kick it, do whatever you youngin’s do, lol and i get it that he was all you knew, i been with hubby on off since i was 16, i am now 27, but we had to go throo a whole LOT of shit to get where we are now, and it worked for us, we found our way back to each other and we cool, we still have bumps in the road, but we work it out and if we are meant to be then we will be, same for you and ya BD, maybe if it’s meant to be, yall will get it together and live happily ever after,

and i don’t care what nobody say, specially if yall got kids Lady K, i feel you on that i still love him tip, cause yall share a bond, how you NOT gon love him, and ya kid prolly walking round looking just like his daddy….lol

okay fly guy i swear imma shut up and wait till you get here….lol but hell i been waiting to hear you drop knowledge since yesterday when you put this post up….so get in here

I know…FG talkin bout he is gonna get at us later..that was so yesterday:)

wasn’t it tho K……so imma speak on both our behalf’s girl….lol FG we mad cause you ain’t here so get here, asap…..

Ok, I am officially back in the game. You don’t have to be mad at me anymore ladies ;-)

As far as the situation goes Ms. K, I believe you and Chrissy talked it out in an extremely positive way. You never know who or what God has in store for you. So maybe the day will come when the father of your child does get it together, and decides to fully handle his business as a mate/father. If that happens, then great. But if it doesn’t, you have to fully prepare yourself for that very real possibility. How do you do that? By completely letting go.

“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were.” — Kahlil Gibran

Once you completely let go…and I mean completely, it allows you to really look at the relationship for what it was, as well as give yourself a fair shot at possibly finding new love. You’ll never be able to do either if he has this in and out relationship with you. This isn’t double dutch…it’s your life. He needs to either respect that or leave.

The doors of the church are now open…lol.

yipee the REAL love doctor is back, and in full effect….i agree with you too Fly G, and like i said before Ms Special K young, she has plenty of time to just do her, learn to enjoy her own company, and spend all her spare t ime with her other lil man…..

I actually need to send you a bill Chrissy. You were operating out of my office…gotta charge you a rental fee…LMAO. J/k. I appreciate you holding it down for me.

lol FlyG, you send me a bill, imma do like i do all them bill collector’s, and trash it, sides, i thought we was cool, shouldn’t i get some sorta “we cool so you can dispense advice till i get back but don’t let it happen again” discount???

lol where ya been anyway, giving out advice all over the place huh???

yeah I’ve been traveling a lot, and we are preparing for the Fly Guy TV show, so there’s just a lot going on. I’ll make sure that I keep you guys posted.

LMAO, y’all are a mess…and thanks for that! and you are right this isn’t double dutch!!! he came at me with some ol’…can we still haev sexx type shyt!!! I was like uh uh, I’m proud of myself because i have been doing really good. I have to because i need him to know I’m bout my shyt, and he walked out on me…….So, yea keep walkin I would be down and out if i was doin my thing also…but i put 110% into the relationship, i know i was a wonderful girlfriend…so knowing i gave my all, and realizing it wasn’t my fault helps me through it all.

WHAAAAAAAAAT FG TV show, i know thats right!

see K, you got the perfect attitude, s’long as you know you did your part, that is cool cause you did all you could so i say enjoy the single life girl, and if i ever come to Florida i am soooooooooooooooooooo looking yo ass up so we can kick it….lol

and congrats on the show FlyG…..

He!! yea we would kick it and shut down the whole city…LMAO and yes i am enjoying being single…it’s different when you are 16-18 yrs old single vs. 22+ single…whole new ballgame…lmao i have been gettin my grown woman on:) i ain’t playn no games!

lol @ K getting her grown woman on…..feels good huh…

U know it! i ain’t gotta be home by 10pm n shyt…LMAO

i don’t have to lie about where i am going

haha singin “I’m grown NOWWWWWWW”

LMAO SO YOU GON COME IN @ 5 IN THE AM JUST CAUSE YOU CAN……AHHHHHHH THE GOOD OLE DAYS….

YEPpppppppp…LMAO u know it! and don’t get asked a dayum thang!

HA- I COME IN @ THAT TIME OF MORNING HUBBY GOING OFF, SO I GOTTA BE RESPECTFUL OF HIM….ALTHO I AIN’T STAYED OUT TILL THE WEE HOURS IN A LONG TIME…….

What’s up everyone. I wish my woman would tell me to take a bow. Not while she’s living in my house…lol

BTW…ya’ll are crazy

What’s up everyone. I wish my woman would tell me to take a bow. Not while she’s living in my house…lol

^^^^^^LMAO AND WHO YOU SAY CRAZY AGAIN???????

the two of you are. LMAO

lol fine mr marquis, i take that as a compliment…..but you crazy for talking to my equally crazy ass so there…

LMAO @ Marquis….yea we are a mess…haha, but yea hriss i was respectful too when i had a mate…shiiiiiiiiiid he dayum sure wasn’t…singin “love is blind, and it will take over ya mind”
boy Eve wasn’t lyin when she said that!

Chrissy*

so why does BD call me this morning(he keeps our son every Mon and Tues,sometimes Sunday) saying that he was thinking about me? i really cannot go down that road again with him right now…he has some more growing up to do because he is not ready for a real woman like myself. and besides Chriss i told you about dude i was talkin 2:))))))))))))) sigh, he has put me through a lot of BS within the past year. I will remain strong, because i know that him not being in my life right now is best for ME. he is taking care of his responsibilities with our son, and that is all i am concerned with right now. because when he wanted to do his thing and he left me, i stepped back and let him…even forgave him when he came back…only to have him leave me for this chick (who BTW called playing on my phone the other day) I’m too old for this shyt, i’m tryna do big thangs for myself and he is going nowhere in life right now. He is stuck in that ghetto nicca mentality and that is downfall!

it’s good tho he handling up with yall son, even if he can’t get it right with you least he a good daddy right K????

You know what tho K, we as women, black women period got too much shyt on our plates to be playing with these dudes, and they steady be adding shyt to the mix, making it harde instead of easier, and we are expected to just deal with it most times, be strong, and patient or whatever, but you gotta do you, and since you and dreads are having fun, ignore ya BD tell him next time he call, ummm yeah i been thinking bout you too boo, bout much as a rat think bout inviting a hungry ass family of rattlesnakes over for dinner, lmmfao and let him know you missed out on all this boo boo, so all we have in common now is our son, step off, and call that chick you left me for and tell her that bullshit, cause i gots better crap to do…..

and you know i gotta live vicariously throo you since you living the fun single life, and i am married and dull, so keep me updadted on dreads…..i am rooting for him to win in the end….lol

LMAO, i love ur advice…FG gone be tryna charge you again..haha but yeah i already know what time it is and i don’t have time to play with him! when he said it I ain’t say nothin…LMAO i just sat there silent i didn’t say nothing, but i rolled my eyes…maaaaaaaan i’m tellin you Chriss I ain’t gone let it happen. Me n Dread doin too good! When he left me, he made me feel like shyt…Christmas when he came over he rushin to leave, while he with his chick…he was being short as hell with me…it’s crazy how he did my azz, and finding out all this time he had been cheating took the cake. So no matter how much i care about him, i just can’t let him interrupt my happiness right now:) it’s all about me doin me and i am lovin it!

when we were together, he wouldn’t come home some nights, and me being naive when he said he was at the studio,his cousins house, whatever…i believed him and never questioned him. when he came back to me, then left again for the chick he used to live with…that again made me feel like shyt. But i realized that he is insecure and he thought i would be the one to do him wrong so in a sense he felt like he had to beat me to it…fukked up i know. But i also had to realize that he had never been with a REAL WOMAN who stayed down yano, i was all about him and i wasn’t even thinkin bout another dude…i was pregnant with our son and i am takin out the trash!!!(i feel ur blood boilin’, i know u over ther like WTF) yea i know i was blinded by the love and i was willing to stick it out and try to make it work…he fukked up, not me so whenever i start thinkin about the what ifs, i think about the reality of it…and it wasn’t all good. I deserve to be treated like a queen, i don’t ask for much and i’m not high maint. I am beautiful, i’m laid back and understanding. What dummy wouldn’t want me? (i am in no way conceited) juss had to put that out there…lol but i am a good person and i know i deserve better!

i feel ur blood boilin’, i know u over ther like WTF)

^^^^ man please K i could tell ya some stories worse than that girl, and i MARRIED to the dude who did me worse that that listed above….

i fell ya on that he is the insecure one tip, that was deep how you put it i would have never seen it that way…..and all women deserve to be treated like a queen, sometimes our king my not wanna do right but hell nobody’s perfect right???? you gotta weight the good with the bad, and in the end it’s whatever makes you happy, if dreads is doing that, if he giving you betterflies when he call, and you grinning from ear to ear when you think bout him, then i say hang tough and see how far yall can go, just have fun with him….lol and i swear FG i am done no more advice, send me a bill….

Yea i feel you Chriss:) honestly, i would love for us to be together and have our family back, KNOWING HE WILL DO RIGHT. BUT knowing what i know (the cheating) I have never had to go through something like that, but i honestly cannot forgive him right now at this time in my life. I would hate to get back with him and feel like i cannot trust him or always bring up the fact that he cheated. But we have history, he was my first everything….he was all i knew from 17 years-now as a BF. I am open to the possibility of me and Dread, but he is also insecure which he revealed to me….but insecure like when i tell him he is sexy he is like “whatever” yano and i am like dayum, THIS MAN is really sexy and i have a thang for him!!!! But he isn’t insecure like “yea, i know how women are..blah blah” yano? and he does give me butterflies, and he does tell me how beautiful i am, and he just makes me feel good inside n out..haha but we just have a connection that i can’t explain. BD just called (i pick up our son when i get off) and i thought we was on some friend type ish b4 he called this mornin with that BS…but he was like when are we gonna go on our date, i told him it wasn’t nothin because i am talkin to someone yano…i could feel the jealousy seeping through the phone. So i know he is gonna want to talk when i go pick up her son, but i know it’s gonna leave me angry because it makes me mad that he would even *think* i could forget how he just did me and be all peachy and ready to take him back like last time. I feel like he had his chance, now it’s Dreads turn….and if he fukks up, that’s his loss too!