My Ex Won't Go Away!

Apr 23rd, 2008 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Letters
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Dear Fly Guy,

I had a strange relationship with my ex, which eventually came to an end. After initially attempting to be civil, I finally got to the point where I had enough and asked him to stop contacting me. He wouldn’t listen though. At first I took the diplomatic approach, and then I tried the “Super B*tch” approach, but he still refused to stop. It was almost as if I had never said anything or like he thought I was joking. I really don’t have a desire to be his friend nor speak to him ever again. How can I get him to take me seriously? And how can I get him to see that I want nothing to do with him?

Essence

Dear Essence,

Unfortunately, it’s hard for some people to let go of the past. Your situation actually reminds me of the days leading up to Lionel Ritchie cutting off his jheri curl. For the longest time, I couldn’t get him to part ways with that hair style … even though he knew it had no real place in his life. The same can be said for your ex, as he too has a serious problem with letting go of the past. As far as what you should do, I wouldn’t respond to him diplomatically. But I also wouldn’t respond out of anger either. Just don’t respond. Of course he’ll still try for a while, but in time I’m sure he’ll get the picture and let go. Lionel finally did. Hope this helps.

The Fly Guy

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  • http://twoditzybroads.blogspot.com/ Bahama

    Me and my ex (if you can call him that) had this exact same problem..i tried all them things and his arse STILL calls..course i don’t answer but it’s been damn near a year buddy,get the eff over it..lol

  • http://www.hairsmystory.com LeAnne

    Welcome to my world. If I had a nickel for every stalker… boy…
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  • Krystle

    I am in the same exact boat and dealt with this today. I tried to be nice and then got mean. He eventually tried to hurt my feelings which he did not and say he never cared about so on and so forth. I shouldve just ignored him from jump!

  • http://www.salonsuccessservices.com angeebelle

    First of all the next time he calls don’t answer if you don’t wish to speak to him that should be easy. I must admit it is alot easier said than done,but be honest with yourself he can’t do anything that you don’t allow him to do.

  • Kayla

    I’m in your exact same position. I broke up with my ex about a year ago and he still wants us to get back together. We split up after too many complications and now they’re all back again. It’s like I never broke up with him! I don’t know what to do. My family insists that I stay with him; my father even still refers to him as my boyfriend. I was even scolded by my parents when I broke up with him. They accused me of “punishing him”, even though he cheated on me, so really me keeping him around is punishing myself. I’m so confused. I feel if I stay with him then everyone is happy and I’m miserable, but it’s more of a convenience. And if I leave him I know I’ll be happy but at the same time I don’t know if my ex will really leave this time or if he’ll take me seriously.