I couldn’t agree more. I’m not, and never have been in the habit of making up for the past “wrongs” of the last dude. Leave that to the Joe’s of the world who are happy being the rebound guy. Don’t take your issues into the next man. It’s not our fault he left you broken and battered, get over your issues on your own, because they are just that…YOUR issues.

I need to hire you as my hype man or assistant pastor…lol

Just for that I am going to post Damaged on the Jorden myspace… lol! :)

Sike naw you gotta point. We gotta start working out our own ish instead of expecting someone to do it for us. But the song is still HOT!

April Joy

Oh but one quick question… When are men going to take responsibility for thier part in our Damage????

You’re right, and I couldn’t agree with you more. Men do need to step up and take responsibility for the damage they caused…but it has to be the right man. It’s time out for us doing the time for someone else’s crime.

actually i have experienced this with a guy before. As much as I have been hurt my Libra ass will always dust it off not carry it with me… love continues to rule my world and the next man gets me fresh… He had been damaged plus he was a gemini so we talked out every which way he felt before and after me and he often used that past hurt to refer to our relationship as to glorify ours because it wasnt like the last bad relationship he had… if you follow me… if not then im saying that guys hold grudges and baggage too believe it or not and they could be holding that grudge all the way from the 6th grade too and oh yeah when told how men cheat he says women be sneaky wit it tho….
DANITY CANE prob was looking for their next hit i dunno….guess that aint it…whooooo my comments long like a good di** in da morning…. and im out dis piece

I feel mona… I have been in relationship where men have had baggage, insecurites, whateva and in turn they tried to play the reverse game and make it seem like it was ME with the issues… dating/relationships is a weird thing because it is definately a give and take… the only problem is when you start giving more and recieving less. this doesn’t neccessarily mean money… it could mean energy… some “damaged” men can be so draining that after dealing with them you have to go into a personal rehabilitation. Bottom line every woman should take time to “do her”. Also we can cut out alot of uneccessary damage by learning from our past mistakes. Between all of our girl friends sisters and friends stories we have seen damage. The key to stoping it from filtering into a new relationship is to start IDENTIFYING the traits of a bullsh^t. When you see it SHUT IT DOWN. okay my bad… i just felt like sharing some more… nite nite

fellas can start fixing damage and taking responsibility by recording an appropriate response to this song…do you have any idea of how many women are in LA Fitness hitting the treadmill to this shit? The damage already been done…the only way to reverse it is to get JT Money and Too Short on a song together to combat these chicks…and why the fugg is Puffy on here sounding like DMX after a Malibu and Pineapple?

But nah seriously…best way to deal with the bag ladies is to just be upfront with them…let them know you didnt have nothing to do with what ever happened…be considerate the first to maybe 3rd time they try to lash out…but after that, you gotta be blunt and just tell them to handle it or kick rocks…

“Puffy on here sounding like DMX after a Malibu and Pineapple”…..now that’s funny

Fly Guy, you need to post the Musiz Soulchild, “Previous Cats” joint. He addresses the problem adequately.

I Gotcha. Previous Cats is now in the main post.

Yeah, this song is pretty stupid, but hey, what are these girls, 12? What “relationships” have they really had? They really don’t know what they hell they are talking about….

But on a more important note, I think that all of us at this age (late 20’s, early 30’s) have baggage/damage. If someone says they don’t they are lying their arse off!

The key is how to fix/work on the damage of the past relationship so it does not pop up into the present. Hard to do, but necessary. I don’t think the new person should have to shoulder the burden of doing that, that’s on you! However, all these men that claim they don’t want to date any woman with drama/baggage/issues need to fall back. Unless you are willing to date a FETUS or a CORPSE then you are going to have to cut the females some slack. Same thing goes for women too.

HOWEVER….if the foolishness is just too much, then cut everyone loose. Sometimes, some folks just need to get their *ish together before they get back on the scene!

That new Usher “I Can’t Win” would be a good response too…

i like the song!!!!!!! and i think that they are a good girl group and yes, i do have the CD! and yes, i’m playing it in my IPOD, WHAT?! lol! and they aren’t 12 they are in there early 20’s and truth be told there were some of us that were damaged by that age too! i took the song as i got some sh@t with me, i like you but i want you to know ahead of time that and if you want to continue then that’s cool but i just wanted you to know in advance. (this is classic she is setting you up for the blow up. . . look i like you and i’m hurt so if i just flip out one day don’t take it personally, lol) i mean who wouldn’t want to know if you might have a few issues/baggage, mario winans (”i don’t want to know” but that’s another topic). i do think that women and men should take a little time for themselves after each relationship but just because you want to take time doesn’t mean that GOD is going to give you that time. what if in your “pursuit to happiness” you were taking the time you felt you needed and someone great walks into your life, what are you going to say “bad timing?” he/she might be just what the doctor ordered to “help fix it!” though i can understand what you mean when they say, “how ya gonna fix it?” because technically it is not his problem but i think that it was catchy and they needed something cute and sassy to say, i don’t think that they meant it literally. but i’m cool with d. woods you want me to “ask her?”

I actually like this piece because it touches on a lot of truths as to women. But trust I have “dated” a couple of guys that penalized me for their ex(s) or the women of their past. So I feel like as human beings we all need to check ourselves before we invite people into our lives.

The best buy Circuit city analogy..Hilarious.

I like this song, I did not take it so literally that the ownest of every heartbreak is on men…
I’m not a Fly Guy, But a Fly girl and I gotta agree. Women need to stop looking at men to fix their problems, however Men could “Fix it” by not committing those heartbreaking crimes.
Women we damage men as well, that in turn begins the domino effect of damaging folks. Someone in sense needs to stop this process, and “FIX IT”.

You feel me or is this a stretch??…
~~~Buppie.Blogspot.Com~~~~

I agree with you DC Buppie. Someone needs to stop it.

When did men and women become so adversarial???

First, as a grown woman, I am appaled by the way some of my younger sisters (all nationalities) view relationships.

I am constantly trying to tell women that you do not need a man to complete you. You should complete yourself. Really, that goes for males and females.

Your mate should be there to compliment you. What you lmay ack, they make up for. Hence it being called a partnership.

NO! the next “partner” you have should not “fix” you. You should come into ANY new relationship (love, friendship, professional, etc.) clear of any past issues.

Don’t get it twisted. You should never forget what you went through. What you should do is take every hurt or disappointment as a lesson learned and apply it to your list of “What I don’t want to happen from this point”. Keep your eyes open but give the next situation a chance before you start judging.

Trust until they prove not trust worthy. Don’t be DUMB, of course but be aware!

1st of all I love this song.
2nd of all I have to now admit that the words are kind of stupid.

…Kind of stupid I think is a stretch but then again all last year we were “Superman That Ho!” and it was given best song of the year. So now a days the words don’t have to be that great it just has to sell, lol!

o and by the way you could of gotten a better picture of them!

oh boy, you gonna fight me over the pic…lol

And most females in this predicament wonder why dudes flee from them faster than an illegal Mexican from an INS agent. I understand that we all carry things from our past. But should I be subjected to your feelings on a previous relationship that I had no part of. You’re better off taking that up with Ronreaco or George or whatever his name is b/c i’m not dude.

*that should read*
And most females in this predicament wonder why dudes flee from them faster than an illegal Mexican from an INS agent. I understand that we all carry things from our past, but should I be subjected to your feelings on a previous relationship that I had no part of? No. You’re better off taking that up with Ronreaco or George or whatever his name is b/c I’m not him.

Hell yeah I’m going to ride you about that picture. . . you could of done way better, actually I think that I found a great one and put in on my page instead of that whack one you got up, lol!

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