my cyber friend just went throo this, lol dude kept calling and she never answered but he kept on and kept on for like a week maybe finally he stopped, she said he was a nice nuff guy but not for her……po thang, i told her it was something bout her he was really feeling and he just didn’t wanna give up….

question tho fly guy, have you ever been in any of those scenarios above???? lol don’t answer that if you don’t wanna, i am just curious is all

3 and 4 are right on the money…no matter how many times you do those, they never get it.

lol, oh I can answer that. I think that at one point or another, as men we have all have experienced some of this. It happens to the best of us, because no matter how tight and put together we think we are, every woman is not going to be attracted to us.

With that being said, it’s up to us to recognize it early on that the woman isn’t feeling us. That way, there’s no harm, no foul, and I won’t have to write articles like this…lol

You have a really unique way of tapping into our emotions. This was right on the money.

I agree with you FG, every man has dealt with this on some level. The desperate/crazy ones don’t get it though, and then they get clowned by women. It’s not hard to tell when someone is not feeling you.

I ain’t even gonna lie. I was dating this chick and she kept bringing her homegirl with her. At first, I was thinking she was being immature, but I guess she just wasn’t feeling ya boy. That kinda sucks.

YESSSS!!! 3 and 4 say it all for me

You gotta do one for the guys, cause we go through not feeling a woman too. I think I’ve set certain females personalized ringtones to silent so I wouldn’t have to keep picking up my phone and hitting the ignore button. But I’ve got a question, why can’t a woman just be up front and real, as they normally say they are, and tell a guy the deal up front?

Be patient my friend…that’s next’s week’s topic. And that is a good question…one that is so easy yet so difficult to answer…lol

To Chris: But I’ve got a question, why can’t a woman just be up front and real, as they normally say they are, and tell a guy the deal up front?. . .

Because we want to be nice, we don’t want to hurt your feelings right up front because we don’t want our feelings hurt like that!
On the other hand there are some
of us that want to keep you around “just in case” you know:

1. We are bored and need someone to call to take us out (This is the main reason, sorry ladies but the truth be told)

2. We need someone to talk to, but not for a long time though, brief conversation

3. We need something; money is the main reason. If I have been nice to this guy and he likes me then I’m sure if I am ever in a bind he will be there for me, right?

4. We need someone to quietly laugh at with our girls; This is childish but we might even call you on the phone and play you just to make ourselves feel better (only the ones with a low self-esteem would do this one)

. . . I mean this is what someone has told me of course, I don’t know if any of this is true. Am I telling to much?! Okay, I’m going to stop I can’t put it all the way out there, some guy might not be able to handle the “real” truth

To ubringmejoi, you may have heard your 1st and 3rd reasons from me. I am guilty of having man-buddies who want to be in my life but I’m not that interested. Honestly, I’m not that nice to my man-buddies but they think it’s cute, and decide to stick around. So I continue to get them to buy me things.

thanks for answering FG…..

ask me anything. I’m open…

This was a good post. You have a new fan!

I’m looking forward to seeing how the women respond to the flip side next week.

To ubringmejoi, so the truth finally comes out. You women are even more trifling than I thought

@ Chris W. : But I’ve got a question, why can’t a woman just be up front and real, as they normally say they are, and tell a guy the deal up front?. . .

I’ve found that men don’t deal well with even the smallest rejection, so we try to let you down easy to protect your feelings. Unfortunately, many men don’t pick up on it quick enough when you let them down easy.

@DH: Sure blame it on us. All women seem to do that well.

ask me anything. I’m open…
^^^^@ Fly Guy lol don’t tell me that cause imma be all up in here asking you all kinda questions…and i can’t wait for the flip side version of this…..

bring it on…I ain’t scared…lol

Wes
To ubringmejoi, so the truth finally comes out. You women are even more trifling than I thought…

The truth doesn’t finally come out men can’t handle the truth and sh@t to be honest neither can us women! And know you see why it took so long for the truth to come out, what are we kids calling names, come on Wes let’s be better than that

Dream of Drea, I feel you hey if that’s what they want to do then I get it!

At the end of the day just know your role! LOL! And watch for the hints because trust me we are throwing them out there!

To Wes:

bring it on…I ain’t scared…lol
^^^^^LOL K, FLY GUY YOU ASKED FOR IT…..WHY ARE MEN NEVER SATISFIED, EVER, WITH ANYTHING…ANSWER THAT

Ubringmejoi………

So it’s like that? I thought we were better than that.

@Wes
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. She PLAYED you!!!!

To Joi and Wes. I think you guys need this…lol

LMAO @ Fly Guy!!!

Fly Guy, your a mess!
Wes, I was just saying “Be easy” chill out a little bit it’s never that deep! I didn’t try and play you but let’s not call names unless you are ready for the response!

Thanks Frank for hyping it up…lol!

@ubringmejoi

I try…lol

To ubringmejoi, it’s all good. I’m just messing wit cha…lol

@ chrissy snow

That answer is simple. It’s the same reason why women are never satisfied. We’re human, and its in our nature to want want want…It takes a level of maturity to put your true needs and the needs of others before your own desires.

Ubringmejoi + Wes + Frank W. =hilarious!!!

@ ubringmejoi

Joi, what kind of psychosis have you started up in here, I don’t check for one day, and all hell has broken loose up in here…lol.

Thanks for the explanation though. I just always thought, since women are so big on “honesty” and being up front about things, that they could do the same when they’re not interested in a guy. But the reasons you mentioned of why you women do it are compelling. Just goes to show that women are more like men that we thought, users, manipulators, and “man-izers”. Yea, its a new word.

@ Dream of Drea

I think some guys like being “stepped” on like that. Makes them feel like you’re more of a conquest and a challenge, that why they bear the craziness to see if you’ll buy into what they’re selling. So is it safe to say, that since you’re not nice to your “man-buddies”, then when you are nice to a guy, you’re throughly interested?

@ chrissy snow

That answer is simple. It’s the same reason why women are never satisfied. We’re human, and its in our nature to want want want…It takes a level of maturity to put your true needs and the needs of others before your own desires.
^^^^^^got the answer for everything dont cha mr fly guy,that’s why i come throo here tho, to see what you gon say….lol thanks……

@ Chris W
Yes some guys like being “stepped” on by women they feel are very attractive. Those men who feel that women like me are a challenge turn to being frustrated when they become aware they don’t only want to ‘win’ but want my full attention. Then they realize I’ve been consistently unavailable for any romantic setting, hardly answers or returns calls, and have received monies or gifts (all at their expense). They resolve to being my buddy since they enjoy being in my vicinity and continue to try to have more of me. Thus those men were not played by me, but by themselves as they refused to acknowledge my reality but only want to see their potential with me.

Conversely, those men I’m interested in (and they are rare) I am very giving of my time and very attentive.

So Chris W., if a woman is beautiful, will you subject yourself to being her man-buddy when you know there’s not a chance you will get with her?

@ chrissy snow

I’m glad you come through, and put up with all of this craziness…lol. Bring some of your friends!

@Dream of Drea

That was a very good answer…must say I’m impressed. You are right, men who play subject to that treatment and not seeing the signs are playing themselves. To answer your question I have to say that I would never subject myself to being a woman’s “whim” no matter how beautiful she may be. I’ve got too much pride for myself and value my time as precious, not to be wasted as someone’s “plaything”. If there is no chance, I’m a big enough boy to bow out gracefully and keep it moving. For some reason I think I know you…you look very familiar. Sorry, tangent.

@Chris W.
Thanks for the compliment about my writing. As far as your last sentence “For some reason I think I know you…” that could be taken for a line to get at me (don’t head down the road to being one of my man-buddies :-) Though I’ve been told I have a familiar face.

@Dream of Drea

Lol…No, I don’t think I want to go down that path. The roadway down the path of heartache and destruction is usually begun with the simplest of gestures, so don’t get me wrong of trying to get at you. You just look like someone I went high school with. That “familiar face” woman-buddy. :)

I think a key sign is the day of the week she’s available to you. If she’s given you Mon-thurs and never around on weekends, thats a bad sign. Every man wants a prime night (Fri-Sat, maybe even Sun). It’s possible you be filling in the “gap” of her other dudes. I’m just sayin…

Another sign is never receiving any “unsolictited” calls. If you continiously have to be the one to reach out first…thats a bad sign as well. It’s not hard ot figure out. What happened to the old school days when getting a phone number meant you were “in”. Cell phones have messed everything up…lol.

Fly Guy, this was a great post. I’m going to have to come here more often.

Fly Guy you are a trip!

TRUE.TRUE. ALL 2 very true. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, featured in the brochure, starred in the info-mercial.

I know I’m late. But this is great! I’m in a similar situation like this. But the only sign of the 5 described that I have seen is 6. However, her response usually is - “I’m waiting for 3 years or so to get into a relationship.” At the same time, she spends virtually all of her time with me.

I’ll admit…When it comes to numbers 4 & 5, I’m a total repeat offender =x

4 is almost always door number one. Its after the guy makes up in his mind that he is going to convince me that he’s The One, that I go on to number 5. Which can sometimes be total wreckage. I’ve had guys call everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, for as long as a month =/

Wow, the signs are so true. I’ve been guilty (and still am) of #4 and #5. #4 was my favourite line to say back in high school, although the dudes that were interested in me saw that as a challenge to sway my decision…not cool. Stalker-ish, even. #5 should be the ultimate sign for a guy to know a woman’s not interested. I mean, if I’m really interested in a dude, I’ll drop everthing I’m doing to talk to him on the phone or call him back ASAP. I’ll finish a research paper while I’m on the phone if I have to!