The Chronicles

6 Reasons Women Cheat

You’re doing all you can to fight back the tears and convince yourself that you won’t be a punk when it comes to this. Yet no matter how much you try to stick to your “manly” guns, you find yourself tossing and turning at night, repeatedly asking this one question…

“Why did she cheat on me?”

You’ve contemplated several scenarios in an attempt to explain her behavior, yet this whole thing feels more complicated than that Lauryn Hill unplugged album. Well allow me a chance to provide some clarity to your rapidly deteriorating relationship by sharing with you “6 Reasons Women Cheat.”

1. You Changed

Once upon a time, you were the most romantic and thoughtful guy this side of Cupid. Somehow that all changed though, and now your romanticism is a thing of the past…kind of like Keith Sweat’s music career. Maybe your job had you bogged down. Or perhaps your financial situation drastically changed. Now that I think about it, you may have just gotten lazy. Whatever the case may be, she found someone else to fill the suddenly huge void you left in her life.

2. The Thrill is Gone

You used to rock her world. These days, the only thing that’s being consistently rocked are the kids to sleep. The sad part is that I receive at least 9 to 10 emails a week from women who all claim to be bored out of their minds with their husbands and boyfriends. They say you’ve become robotic, and that the relationship has gotten too predictable. You give the same gifts, say the same things, go on the same dates, and have sex the EXACT SAME WAY. Now I’m by no means excusing their behavior, but if the roles were reversed, what would you do?

3. Escape Plan

In her mind, it was determined long ago that you weren’t the man for her. But instead of just coming out and expressing this, she tried to find an “easier” way out of the relationship. So she cheated, and purposely got caught. (Fly fact: If you actually think you caught her because you happen to be some kind of super-sleuth, then you’re actually more delusional than Flava Flav’s fashion stylist…and his personal groomer…oh, and his dental hygienist too.)

Now that she’s been caught red-handed, the ball is in your court, and the tough decision is no longer her responsibility. Mission accomplished.

4. Self-Esteem Issues

Some women deal with issues of low self-esteem that seemingly can’t be repaired by the love and attention of one man. So instead of just allowing you the opportunity to love her, she seeks the validation of multiple men, which in some twisted way makes her feel more loved. (It’s almost as if she’s running for public office, and needs to collect as many votes as possible to validate her candidacy.)

5. Revenge

If you didn’t believe in karma before this happened, I’m pretty sure you do now. While I’ve never been an advocate of exacting revenge within a relationship, the bottom line is that she ONLY did this because you cheated first. So the next time you look in the mirror, I need you to repeat the same phrase I make Michael Jackson say every morning…

“I did this to myself.”

6. She’s Just No Good

As much as men get a notoriously bad rap for being no good, there are many women out here that are just as dirty. There’s no real rhyme or reason to why they can’t be faithful…they just like to get around. In fact, you’d probably have a better chance at getting Lester from “227″ a new acting gig, than you would at convincing her to stay on the straight and narrow. In those types of situations, you can’t blame yourself for her actions. Just recognize what it is, and get out while you can.

Fly Guy Moral:

Now that you’ve gained a better understanding of why women cheat, do you feel any better? I didn’t think so. Understanding why someone cheated won’t make the pain go away any faster. That can only come from a sincere love of self, and from the love of a higher power; who in my opinion is the only one truly capable of healing and restoring your broken heart.