Am I Being Unreasonable?

Jan 1st, 2007 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Letters

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Dear Fly Guy,

I’ve been married for 12 years, and have two beautiful children with my husband. A few years ago, he took a one-week vacation by himself to Paris. When he returned, he told me that he had been with other women and needed to be tested for STDs. He broke my heart, but I eventually forgave him to keep my family together. I never bring it up, but it still hurts.

Last night, he told me that he was going on another trip. All I asked him to do was promise me that he will be faithful, but he refuses to talk about it. He says he’s going to have a good time on his trip, and that he’ll cross that bridge when it gets here. I told him it was emotional abuse. He just laughed and told me to get a grip!!! Do you think I am being unreasonable?

Pamela

Dear Pamela,

You are not being unreasonable. You’re not exactly being smart about the situation either. You can’t allow someone to walk all over you, and then keep forgiving them. This seems to be the pattern you’ve developed with your husband. I understand that you are hanging in there for the sake of your kids, but there comes a point when enough is enough (I feel that way every time I see the new Rocky commercials.) It’s important for your husband to have a relationship with his kids…not you. So when he packs his bags for his trip, you need to be standing right next to him gathering your belongings too. You are not Jennifer Hudson, and this is not Dreamgirls. “So I am telling you….you need to get going.” The wedding vows are sacred, and you made a promise to God to love him until death do you part. I just don’t think God wants you to kill him in order to hold up your end of the marriage bargain. All jokes aside, you definitely deserve better. It’s time you cut him off like Saddam’s air supply (am I the only one that doesn’t feel safer now that he’s dead?) Hope this helps.

The Fly Guy