So I have to admit that I found myself in an interesting situation a few days ago. I was spending some quality time with a potential … (potential what, I’m not sure of yet) … but anyway, we were spending time together, and she asked me to play some music to “set the mood.”
Name: Wale Folarin
City: Washington D.C.
Follow Him: Twitter.com/wale
His Philosophy On Life: We should always be learning from each other. I think that my life experiences should help the next man, and vice versa. That’s why people make movies and biographies, because we should always be learning from the next person’s experiences.
His Philosophy On Love: It’s important to be proactive. When men and women have to be asked to do something it takes away from the relationship exponentially. Forget-me-nots are what fuel the relationships to me. It’s like putting gas in your car before it gets to E. It’s like the soil or how you nurture the relationship.

Are There Any Real Women Left?“All I want is a man that’s real.” As the words left her mouth, it was almost as if I could hear a chorus of women standing behind her, ready to take up her cause. This stance is nothing new though. Ask any woman to describe what she desires in a man, and more often than not, adjectives like real and honest will somehow make their way into the conversation. May 27th, 2010 | 51 Comments |
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Don’t Let Your Woman Change For YouAttention men: Now you may not want to hear this, but there are women out here currently faking the funk with you. And no, I’m not talking about orgasms (although that actually does apply to some of you.) What I’m actually referring to is a woman that will pretend as if she’s into one of your hobbies just so she can come off as super cool. Scandalous, I know. Jul 6th, 2010 | 5 Comments |
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My Woman Doesn’t CompromiseDear Fly Guy, I need some relationship advice. Most women give men a hard time when it comes to committing to them, but I’m the exact opposite. When I commit to a woman, she has my heart forever. My problem is that my loyalty may be causing me to give my woman more leeway than she probably deserves. Jul 6th, 2010 | 4 Comments |
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A Quick Guide To Handling A Break UpI’ll be the first one to admit this shortcoming: break ups make me uneasy. There’s just something about the giving and receiving of bad relationship news that doesn’t sit well with me. I mean, think about it; is there really another conversation that’s more uncomfortable? I can’t think of a single one. Jul 6th, 2010 | 3 Comments |
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Approaching A Woman…When I’m A WomanHey Fly Guy, I wanted to know how would you go about asking out a person of the same sex. I have a coworker who is female and I swear she is one of the baddest females I’ve ever seen in LA. I notice her noticing me sometimes, but I’m thinking maybe it’s all in my head. Got any advice? Jun 30th, 2010 | 2 Comments |
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Understanding A Man’s Silence“Blessed quietness … holy quietness … what assurance, in my soul.” I can still hear my mother and grandmother singing that song back in the day when church services seemed to last ALL DAY. The song—which I’m sure is still being sang somewhere—speaks to the beauty of silence in the midst of chaos, and how it allows you the opportunity to hear God’s voice. Jun 30th, 2010 | 5 Comments |
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The Anticipation of Your LoveEvery night that it rains, I pull out my pen and pad and start writing to you. I’m still not sure what it is about the rain that prompts this response … maybe it stems from my childhood belief that rain somehow represented the tears of God. And if God was able to unashamedly express his emotions, then why couldn’t I? Jun 29th, 2010 | 6 Comments |
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Love Recipe: Marinated Grilled Lamb ChopsYou should never grow tired of creating new experiences for you and your significant other to share. A great outlet for this practice is the preparation of meals together. During this process, you can spend quality time while delving deep into the intricate world of the culinary arts. Jun 29th, 2010 | Post a Comment |
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Comparing A Woman’s Wants Vs. Her NeedsA large majority of my life has been spent working to gain a reasonably sound understanding of the opposite sex. If you noticed, I specifically used the word “reasonable” since the likelihood of me ever fully mastering the complexities of a woman is about as probable as Jermaine Jackson denouncing hair grease—especially not when women change and evolve almost as frequently as the sun rises and sets. Jun 29th, 2010 | 14 Comments |
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